{"id":1279,"date":"2019-03-25T14:10:42","date_gmt":"2019-03-25T14:10:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thebodymatters.co.uk\/blog\/?p=1279"},"modified":"2021-12-08T13:57:53","modified_gmt":"2021-12-08T13:57:53","slug":"misfortune","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thebodymatters.co.uk\/blog\/2019\/03\/misfortune\/","title":{"rendered":"Misfortune"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u2018Life can be tough\u2019 is a statement that few would deny. On the global stage, there are areas of the world that are in turmoil, with communities in, whatever definition one might use, poverty. Even in 2019, life for too many is brutish and short. Closer to our own lives, we see others suffer losses with the passage of time and experience similar losses ourselves. It is tempting to think that we can insulate ourselves from pain and suffering, and gain happiness, through the achieving of goals such as financial success.<\/p>\n

In his book \u2018Happy\u2019, Derren Brown argues that there is a deeper level of happiness that is not dependent on such goals. He argues against the popular assertion that we are all capable of doing anything \u2013 that life is just an upward spiral of greater and greater successes:<\/p>\n

\u201cWe are so embroiled in the rhetoric of self-belief that to apply any qualifications to the mantra of \u2018Go on! You can do anything!\u2019 seems to be actively denying people of their chance of happiness. Yet when we warn, \u2018This may not work out\u2019, we are being at heart, very supportive. We are asking the person to set aside, for a moment, their single-minded emotive image of happiness\u201d.<\/p>\n

Having conversations of this sort (about decisions and goals) can be uncomfortable \u2013 whether it is with an elderly driver who really should no longer be driving, with a problem gambler about the path they are on, or with someone in a relationship that most would see as damaging. Yet such conversations are necessary.<\/p>\n

If a personal trainer or coach were to tell me (as a 51-year-old man whose last competitive game of football was for his junior school over forty years ago), that it is perfectly possible for me to become a premiership footballer as long as I whole-heartedly desire it, I would be very surprised! Such a goal simply isn\u2019t plausible.<\/p>\n

Yet obstacles and hardships can be things that we can learn from \u2013 and not solely if we overcome such things. We are moulded into who we are by things we are capable and not capable of, of the opportunities we have had, and that we haven\u2019t had.<\/p>\n

During a speech at his son\u2019s school graduation in 2016, Justice John Roberts of the US Supreme Court said the following to the students present:<\/p>\n

\u201cFrom time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don\u2019t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you\u2019ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things or not, they\u2019re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.\u201d<\/p>\n

To arrange a free 30-minute consultation to discuss how BWRT\u00ae<\/a>, hypnotherapy<\/a> or counselling<\/a> can help you to change your life for the better, contact Jonathan at The Body Matters on 01702 714968.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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