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In the classic novel To Kill a Mockingbird, the character Atticus Finch explains to his young daughter how important it is to see life from the perspective of others. \u201cYou never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view,\u201d he says, \u201cuntil you climb in his skin and walk around in it\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But for many people, this is far easier said than done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is natural to rely on our own perspectives as we navigate our lives, parts of which can be messy and complicated. It is also temptingly easy to underestimate how different people can view the same event or situation in vastly different ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(As a quick example, think about a skill that comes naturally to you. Do you find it hard to imagine that someone else might struggle with the same skill? Be honest!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The work I do as a coach and therapist means I regularly need to see things from different perspectives \u2013 if I couldn\u2019t, my clients wouldn\u2019t want to work with me. Because of this, people sometimes ask me for advice about how to really put themselves into somebody else\u2019s shoes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I advise them to start by viewing the bigger picture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other words, try to get out of your own head and take the blinkers off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can do this by staying curious about other people\u2019s lives, experiences, and opinions, whilst rejecting any judgements that may start to form in your mind. Try to remember that just because somebody else thinks differently from you, it doesn\u2019t automatically mean that you are \u2018right\u2019 and they are \u2018wrong\u2019 \u2013 or vice versa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If it helps, a less emotionally charged example involves thinking about what a group of people might say about how they take their coffee. Some will like it with milk, some prefer it black, and others may choose a cup of tea instead! These are just different personal preferences and there\u2019s no such thing as right or wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think about how the other person would most like to be treated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I often think the so-called Golden Rule: \u201cdo unto others as you would have them do unto you\u201d is misleading, because it assumes that we all like to be treated in exactly the same way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In reality, this is not the case: something we can tell just by looking at the way different customers respond to different levels of service from the companies they deal with. One person\u2019s compliment is another person\u2019s complaint, and it is impossible to please everybody.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be too hard on yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can feel uncomfortable to \u2018try on\u2019 perspectives and opinions that differ hugely from your own. Genuinely stepping into somebody else\u2019s shoes is difficult, especially if it\u2019s something you haven\u2019t tried before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So please, go easy on yourself \u2013 and remember, the fact that you are trying to see life from another person\u2019s point of view is a kind and compassionate act in itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Louise<\/a> is a wellness therapist, embodiment coach, clinical hypnotherapist<\/a>, teacher of meditation<\/a> and teacher of the Realisation Process (RP)<\/a>. For further information or to book a treatment phone Louise on 01702 714968<\/a> or contact us to book an appointment<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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