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Nurturing Children’s Happiness Beyond Material Possessions

Children possess a remarkable gift—the ability to find joy in the simplest things, like a cardboard box, a container, or a set of measuring spoons. It prompts reflection on why, amidst this innate ability to be enthralled, we feel compelled to inundate them with numerous toys that often go untouched before they outgrow them. A moment of introspection may reveal that our tendency to constantly shower our children with new possessions, clothes, and indulgent treats stems from a deeper need to fill a void within ourselves, a subconscious attempt to sidestep difficult emotions and pain.

Sometimes, the urge to spoil our children arises from a desire to compensate for the perceived lack of abundance in our own childhoods or from a need to gain affection and approval from our children. These motives, often unconscious, trace back to unresolved issues from our upbringing or adult life. As parents, these unresolved feelings resurface, particularly as our children approach the age when our own traumas are most pronounced. It’s crucial to recognize that showering our children with material possessions won’t alleviate our pain; only acknowledging and addressing our emotional issues can bring healing.

What our children truly require from us is a sense of safety, freedom, and an abundance of love. If we excel in providing these emotional foundations, material possessions need not take centre stage. While the desire to offer our children a happy life is universal, the essence of joy extends beyond material items. Confusion arises when we attempt to equate happiness with the accumulation of things, inadvertently teaching our children that joy comes from possessions rather than the sheer delight of being alive, surrounded by love, and free to explore the world. It’s a poignant reminder that, in the grand tapestry of life, the richness of experiences and emotional connections far surpass the transient allure of material possessions.

Louise is a wellness therapist, embodiment coach, clinical hypnotherapist, teacher of meditation and teacher of the Realisation Process (RP). For further information or to book a treatment phone Louise on 01702 714968 or contact us to book an appointment.

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